Today I have loads of dirty laundry to make up for a really busy week. My little one may be wearing the last perfectly sized clean outfit, and tonight he might be eating a pre-preraded meal, far from a mummy cooked meal. My kitchen is in a state of pure chaos… And I am coping with the worst cold ever…! However I still managed to leave my little one in the nursery this morning and head to a normal work day. Literally, I feel that this past week I was crawling everywhere... I still have tons of Christmas shopping to do, and I barely had the time to decorate my Christmas tree. I still haven’t bought my baby´s Christmas gift. But I managed to decorate the Christmas tree and this year I had a precious little help, and we had lots of fun while decorating it!
So can I claim to be a perfect mum? Well, in the end I am not a perfect mum, but this is rather just a note that maybe not every mother has the perfect living room, all organized and perfectly decorated. And Christmas ready. That not all moms prepare and cook every single meal that our precious little one eats (really, I will be running out of Cow and Gates ready meals this week)… And be ready to entertain our little one endless hours until the day is done. Some moms (me included), only manage to arrive home from work and play for a little while before it is time to bed! And does this make us lesser moms? Or just another ordinary and normal real mom? Or are all really, a perfect mum?
I will be frank; I do feel that I am not a good enough mum for my little one most of the times. When I check other blogs, I feel inspired with playful ideas to try and have fun with my baby, but I also feel overwhelmed with pressure to achieve the same or even more than the rest all these amazing super-moms out there are able to do/craft/bake/and so much more….!
I also feel overtaken by guilt. I don’t do enough. I have to do more. I have to push myself harder. I have to do and achieve must more. Or do I?
Sometimes we do forget that what we blog about is just a small part of our busy life. And we often just blog about what we feel is either interesting to show, like some glamorous outing, or our outstanding achievements, or our babies amazing milestones, or how fantastic are our playtimes.
And of course is far from inspirational to blog and post about your untidy kitchen and how your meal was just a quick take-away, our some frozen pizza (you will not post how you just micro-waved a slice of pizza will you?). And so I am posting about it today. How today was a far from fabulous, but pretty normal day and the end of a pretty busy week … but just as a happy day. Managed by a perfectly real normal mum.
I could blog that I prepared the little one’s dessert…: mango and yogurt!
And behind I also have all of this to deal with!
But we are definitely running low on clean outfits!
I have a Christmas tree…..and some Christmas décor….! My home is looking pretty Christmassy!
I don’t have the most glamorous life and the glowing kitchen...
I don’t have the perfectly tidy home.... I just manage our home the best I can.
I can have it done, and I am able to have a super tidy home, but only when I have the time and energy to do it... Definitely not by the end of an exhausting week.
I don’t spend the whole day playing with my baby, and with entire new games and toys. I have to work. But I love my little one to pieces, and I enjoy every single second of our play time. And he has the time of his life when we are at it!
So, I shouldn´t be consumed by guilt if I don’t present my little one with the most tidiest of homes every single day, ....and if this Christmas he will not be showered by Christmas presents (I still have to buy the one gift)....or even if we don´t do amazing games or crafts every day...!
I manage our home the best I can. I work the best I can. We play whenever and however I can.
But I love my little one to the moon and back, with all of my heart and soul! And just that makes me an awesome perfectly real mom!
What about you? Do you feel pressured to be a perfect mum?
And to excel at every daily task?
I am linking up with these amazing bloggers:
Nobodies perfect as much a some like to present perfection on social media ect guilt it was on the hardest things as a parent i think, i'm always feeling guilty about one thing or another! #binkylinky
ReplyDeleteThank you! I am happy to find out I am not thr only one who feels the same!x
DeleteYOU ROCK! Being a mother is overwhelming. And I dont know how the other moms are doing it cuz they seem to be doing it so well and I suck big time. But I try to forgive myself. I love my son so much and I am sure thats enough reason for him for me to be the perfect mother =) #binkylinky
ReplyDeleteThank you ! Motherhood it is overwhelming!! I still have to learn to be more forgiven, but do we have to really, be forgiven? Maybe we shouldn’t have to, because we are not doing anything wrong really, if we are doing the very best we can! :) x
DeleteI think too many people nowadays are afraid of not being perfect. Facebook feeds are full of 'perfect photos' of ''perfect people' and 'perfect families' and we judge each other so much. It's a shame as it leaves people feeling alienated. Great post. I think we all try to be perfect and probably judge ourselves the most harshly of anyone. Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky
ReplyDeleteThank you! And thank you for hosting! Its true, with all the media we tend to compare and judge a lot, and mostly us! "Am I doing enough?". :) x
DeleteI am sure you are the best mum! Our house is messy, Mummy doesn't iron, and our wash basket runs over! BUT we have the most love and laughter in the WORLD! #BinkyLinky
ReplyDeleteThank you! Having fun and enjoying our little ones is the most important thing after all!x :)
DeleteYou sound like a great mum and everything of course is always filtered, I love sharing the pretty stuff but I like to add a bit of reality too, if you could see the playroom now you'd scream! Haha! Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts x
ReplyDeleteThank you! I was indeed trying to add a bit of a reality that usually doesn´t show as often...! Thank you for hosting! x :)
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